If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
The body for sure! And not because I want the body of a thirty year old......I just don’t want my 30 year old mind back. I look forward to having the experience, knowledge and wisdom of my 90 year old mind! (Because I am going to live til 90!). I’ve learnt so much since 30, and so much that’s now integral to who I am.
Would you rather lose all of your old memories, or never be able to make new ones?
My old memories are like old friends, I’d hate to lose them. It’s far easier to give up the thought of new memories because I’m not attached to them. I think we absorb our memories into our identity so part of who I am would also be lost without them.
At what time in your recent past have you felt most passionate and alive?
Hmmmm, this is tough to talk about. Three years ago this week I was in the USA with a man I adored. I have never felt more connected, alive, adored and passionate than I did at the end of that week. Sadly, that’s no longer the case. Whilst that is the most recent, I’ve also felt completely in flow when I first started my business 7/8 years ago. There are a number of things that make me feel that way, not just relationships.
When is it time to stop calculating risk and rewards, and just go ahead and do what you know is right?
Always! Always, always, do what you know is right. Let that be your ONLY guide.
What are you pretending not to know?
Ahhhhh, yes. Tough one! I’m pretending not to know that starting a new business, pursuing work options, health issues......are all just ways to cover my lack of focus towards my studies just now and my lack of focus is just about fear of failure.
What do you most connect with? Why?
Myself. Both my physical body and my spiritual body. Because for years I couldn’t even identify the creeping feeling at the top of my spine as tiredness, I was so used to pushing through 90 hour work weeks that I didn’t even recognise what my body felt like when it was tired. I ended up with a chronic health condition out of it......and I will always listen to my body now. In addition, for years I allowed my boundaries to be trampled.....never again.
Have you been the kind of friend you’d want as one?
Yes, absolutely. I’ve become a better friend as I’ve become more authentic. I’m loyal, I encourage my friends, I’m direct and a truthteller, I’m a catalyst for new experiences and deep conversations and I’m forgiving of mistakes because I’m entirely human and have been know to make them too!
Thank you Karyn for volunteering to have this Conversation on the Couch. We can tell already from your self-description that you are amazing but your openness and honesty in sharing your very personal self-reflections is what I love so much about this very special conversation.