"I am old 60-years-old which is old, just ask my 6-year-old grandson. He thinks his Dad is old at 37 so yes, I am old (in grandchildren years!) I got married young, had three boys, then 5 grandkids. I'm still married to the same man 43 years later. I still work, look after the grandkids, cranky Mother lives with us and has done for 22 years (I soooo need a medal hahaha!), so I look after her as well. I love kayaking, walking, reading, chocolate and coffee."
If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
My body has never been that great so, I think I will have to keep my mind, I think? That's a hard one.
For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
So much! For my family, friends, my life - we all say that BUT I am also grateful to cancer for teaching me to fight. I'm grateful to my cranky, stubborn Mum who has taught me patience, to my Grandkids who keep me young, to my students (I work with young people with various abilities) who inspire me every day, and one of my sons, who has Tourette's Syndrome, OCD, Epilepsy, and cancer who just carries on very day and sees the world through rose coloured glasses. He is my hero and I am so proud to be his Mum.
How come the things that make you happy don’t make everyone happy?
Everyone has different "Happy". Most things make me happy, family, friends, new places, eating, laughing ,reading, learning... the list goes on. I can find happiness in just about anything. However, I have friends who never seem to be happy - they only see the faults, not the good bits, but who am I to say they are not happy - maybe that is what is happy to them.
Why are you, you?
My life experiences, the people I have in my life, the people that passed through either quickly or stayed for a while all helped me to become me. It has taken me a long time to be me, as I was always trying to be what everyone else wanted or expected me to be BUT now what you see NOW is me and I am happy with me.
What do you most connect with? Why?
I thought about this for a long time and always came back to the same answer. I connect to people young or old that need some kind of help, love, kindness or motivation. Nearly all my jobs involved helping people in a different ways, whether looking for work, learning new skills, learning better behaviours the list goes on, but that is where I feel most connected, interacting with other people.
Have you been the kind of friend you’d want as one?
Yes, I think I have. I want friends who laugh with me, who tell me when I have green stuff on my teeth, who hold me when I am hurting, who don't have to talk for a while and just pick up where we left off, who can tell me to wake up to myself and know me and accept me as I am. I know I do all that.
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